One of the dangers of any anonymous hook-up (whether it’s Grindr without a face picture or something more… traditional and transactional) is the possibility of running into someone that you have some prior relationship with. That can be…. awkward.
But it always amuses me when someone who is caught in a compromising situation tries to pretend that it’s something other than what it looks like, because the person catching them is just as compromised. Running into someone at a gay bar is the classic example, which I’m guessing most of my readers can relate to, but it isn’t the only one.
Some people are squicked out by some kinds of role-playing, and I get that. Some of it’s pretty creepy. But role play is still just role play.