I hate virginity.

Not the status, but the whole idea. The notion that one hour you’re a virgin, but an hour later, after a particular sex act, you aren’t… is just so wrongheaded.

You have women obsessing over how far their boyfriend inserted their cock into their pussy, or maybe whether he came… even though they’d sucked his cock dozens of times and let him fuck their butt a few times. And you get absurdities like the guy I knew in college who insisted that even the more slutty “gold star” lesbians and gay men were virgins, because they’d never done penis-in-vagina sex.

If we’re going to have the concept of virginity, it needs to be defined in ways that make sense. If you’ve “had sex” – whatever that means to you – you aren’t a virgin, and if you haven’t, you are.