Some people find it weird, but I like to talk during sex. Now, obviously there are certain activities that make it pretty much impossible to carry on a conversation, and I do consider it rude to just chatter away at someone while their mouth is full. And sometimes, I don’t want to spoil a good anonymous fuck with smalltalk. But especially with a stranger (and extra-especially with a paying client), good communication can be essential to a satisfying time. So some chit-chat here makes sense.

The first topic, on the other hand, is a bit touchy. For gay men, you’re a child until 18 (or 16, local laws vary), a cruisable adult after that, and then when you hit 30 … well, if you plan to continue being sexual, and you aren’t coupled … you’re a “daddy” now. It’s a bit like how women used to (?) be judged: at a certain age they’d become an “old maid” and no longer eligible for romance (or sex). After all, if you haven’t been paired-up with someone by then, then there must be something wrong with you. They’d make a limited exception for widows, of course, but that doesn’t seem to count among gay men. If anything it acts more like a red flag: not defective, but certainly damaged goods.

But anyway, here I am, well past my 30th birthday, and still doing OK. Not getting it as much as I did back when, but not out to pasture just yet.